Brewed Affection: The 5 Love Languages, Xaymaca Edition
Because sometimes “I love you” sounds a lot like “I brought you coffee.”
Valentine’s Day has a way of making everyone a little… emotionally suspicious.
Suddenly you’re wondering:
- Do they like me… or do they just like my (really cool) Instagram reels?
- Is that a compliment or are they just being polite?
- Why am I overthinking a heart emoji like it’s a legally binding document?
Here’s the thing about love: people express it differently. Some people write poetry. Some people plan dates. Some people avoid feelings entirely and call it being chill.
And some people (the true romantics) show love the only way that really matters: By making sure you’ve had your coffee.
Welcome to Brewed Affection: The 5 Love Languages, Xaymaca Edition, where we take the classic love languages and give them what they deserve: personality, flavor, and a warm cup of Xaymaca in hand.
Because coffee is never just coffee. It’s a gesture. It’s a mood and a soft little “I got you” without the emotional risk of saying it out loud. Let’s get into it.
The 5 Love Languages (But Make It Coffee)
These love languages are basically five different ways people express their love and care without necessarily using the words. And knowing yours makes love easier, whether it’s romantic love, friendship love, family love, even self-love. It’s like learning the secret settings on someone’s heart.
And Xaymaca Coffee is here for the whole thing.
Love Language 1: Words of Affirmation
This love sounds like: “You’re incredible. Also, I made you coffee.”
If your love language is Words of Affirmation, you don’t just want love, you want it spoken, written, and ideally repeated.
You thrive on:
- Compliments that feel sincere
- “I’m proud of you” moments
- Sweet texts that make you sit down for a second
- Someone noticing the effort you’re putting in
Your emotional support animal is basically… praise.
Your coffee vibe: The Mocha Heart
You’re the kind of person who wants comfort and charm. Something that feels like a hug but still says that you have impeccable taste.
A Xaymaca mocha moment is the perfect match, rich, warm, a little indulgent, and undeniably romantic.
How you act when you like someone:
- You hype them up like it’s your job
- You remember the small things they say
- You send loving little messages and mean it
- You can fall in love off one good compliment (relatable)
How to love you back:
They should tell you things like:
- I love being around you.
- You make things better.
- You’re doing amazing. Don’t forget that.
- An occasional, “Hey handsome/beautiful!” also goes a long way.
And if you really want to go full Valentine? Slip a note next to their cup that says: “You’re my favorite part of today.” That’s not extra. That’s romance.
Recommended Xaymaca coffee: Clydesdale Jamaica Blue Mountain Peaberry (add some cocoa and a splash of condensed milk)
This one’s for the people who want love to feel special, rare, and worth writing home about. Peaberry is a rare coffee that stands above the rest. It is sweet, smooth, and extremely compliment-worthy.
Shop for this delicious coffee
Love Language 2: Quality Time
Love looks like: sharing a moment that doesn’t need a filter
Quality Time people don’t need grand gestures, they need presence and undivided attention. The feeling that they’re not competing with your phone, your inbox, or your other 37 tabs open in your brain.
They want:
- Long conversations
- Shared rituals
- Intentional time together
- The kind of silence that feels safe, not awkward
Quality Time is basically: “Be here with me.”
Your coffee vibe: The Slow-Burn Pour-Over
This love language isn’t fast. It’s not rushed. It’s not grab-and-go. Instead, it wants to stay a little longer and move a little slower. In fact, making coffee together, slowly, intentionally, is peak romance for you. The steam, the aroma, the soft clinking of mugs… it’s giving a gentle love story.
How you act when you like someone:
- You suggest doing errands together (yes, errands can be the height of romance!)
- You remember details from months ago
- You’d rather have one deep conversation than ten surface-level texts
- You want to build a life, not just a vibe
How to love you back:
Put your phone down and brew the coffee together. Talk, laugh, or just exist in the same space. Quality Time people don’t need perfection. They just want to hang out together doing fun stuff (like making coffee) (and drinking coffee.)
Recommended Xaymaca coffee: Clifton Mount. Brew it slowly.
Single estate coffee is basically intentional love. It’s slow, thoughtful, and meant to be savored, aka ideal for pour-over mornings and long moments spent together.
Love Language 3: Giving/Receiving Gifts
Love feels like: “I saw this and thought of you.”
Let’s clear something up: Receiving Gifts isn’t materialistic, it’s sentimental. It’s not about price, it’s about meaning.
Gift love language people adore:
- Thoughtful surprises
- Little moments of letting them know you remember them
- Something small that says you know them
- The feeling of being chosen
For them, a gift is proof: you were on my mind when you weren’t in the room. Which is… simply adorable.
Your coffee vibe: The Just-Because Bag of Xaymaca
A bag of coffee is the perfect gift because it’s:
- Practical
- Romantic
- Deeply personal (because coffee is sacred)
- A promise of future mornings made better
Giving coffee as a gift is basically saying you want their life to taste good.
How you act when you like someone:
- You’re a master of small surprises
- You have notes app lists of their favorite things
- You treat gift-giving like a sport
- You can wrap a snack like it’s Tiffany’s
How to love you back:
- Get them something unique that feels like them.
- Their favorite pastry with their coffee
- A cute mug that matches their personality
- A handwritten note with a bag of Xaymaca coffee like it’s a love letter
Bonus points if you say: “I got this because it reminded me of you.” That’s basically their version of fireworks.
Recommended Xaymaca coffee: Clydesdale Jamaica Blue Mountain
If love is in the details, then this is the gift that says you didn’t just grab anything, you chose something premium. It’s classic, luxurious, and feels like a Valentine without needing a heart-shaped box.
Love Language 4: Acts of Service
Love is: being taken care of in real life
Acts of Service people are the backbone of society. They don’t want flowers. They want you to help.
They feel loved when someone:
- Makes things easier
- Supports their day
- Does something thoughtful without being asked
- Shows up with effort, not just words
They’re the kind of lover who tells you to rest and takes over for you for a while. And honestly? That’s hot.
Your coffee vibe: The Morning Cup Made For You
Acts of Service in coffee form is making someone a cup exactly the way they like it without asking 14 questions. It’s:
- Remembering their milk preference
- Warming the mug first
- Knowing they like it strong
- Handing it to them like a tiny ceremony
It’s not just coffee. It’s devotion.
How you act when you like someone:
- You’re quietly solving their problems behind the scenes
- You’re the person who takes care of things
- You notice what needs to be done before anyone else does
- Your love is practical, powerful, and extremely real
How to love you back:
Really help them. Take something off their plate, and make them coffee when they’re tired. Not as a big show, just to simply show you’re there for them. Acts of Service people don’t want to be impressed. They want to be supported.
Recommended Xaymaca coffee: Jamaica Blue Single Serve Coffee
Acts of Service people want love that’s useful. Making someone coffee every morning without fuss? That’s devotion. Single Serve Coffee makes it easy to show up for someone daily like the hero you are.
Love Language 5: Physical Touch
Love is: closeness, warmth, comfort that you can feel
If Physical Touch is your love language, you feel love through:
- Hugs
- Hand-holding
- Leaning into each other
- Sitting close for no reason
- That moment when someone touches your arm and your brain goes offline
Physical Touch isn’t always spicy, it’s often tender. It’s safety and warmth, and knowing you’re not alone.
Your coffee vibe: The Cozy Latte & Cuddle Season
Warm coffee in your hands, soft blanket, rainy day energy? You are thriving. You want coffee that feels like comfort. Something creamy, cozy, and calming, like a sweet slow dance, but in beverage form.
How you act when you like someone:
- You’re naturally affectionate
- You communicate with a look and a touch
- You want closeness, not distance
- You’re the person who loves it when someone sits next to you
How to love you back:
Be tender.
- Hold their hand
- Put your arm around them
- Hug them for an extra second
- Make them coffee and sit close while they drink it
Physical Touch people fall in love through feeling safe. So make the space soft, warm, and 100% real.
Recommended Xaymaca coffee: Cinchona Blend topped with steamed milk, honey, and a sprinkle of cinnamon
This is the cozy one. We call it comfort in a cup. It’s the blend that’s great for cuddling on the couch and romanticizing life. It totally gives soft romance energy.
Coffee is The Universal Love Language
Love isn’t one-size-fits-all. Some people want to hear it. Some people want to feel it. Some people want to see it in action. And sometimes? Some people just want you to look them in the eyes, smile, and hand them a cup of perfectly brewed coffee.
That’s the beauty of it. Coffee is universal. It’s romantic without being cheesy. Thoughtful without being complicated. This Valentine’s Day, it doesn't matter whether you’re boo’d up, single and thriving, in a situationship with your barista, or deeply committed to self-love and good caffeine.
Make it sweet. Make it intentional. Make it Xaymaca. Because brewed affection is the best kind of affection.